The Coital Alignment Technique

If you want to be an expert lover and enjoy better sex, then you’re going to need to know how to satisfy your woman sexually, or perhaps more specifically pleasure your partner in bed. And the internet is certainly a place where you can get lots of information about how to pleasure women in bed. You can also find out how to adapt sexual techniques for the individual needs of your partner. Here, we look at the CAT or coital alignment technique.

One thing all men know about women is that they take a lot longer to be turned on and aroused than men do. This may be because women have less testosterone. But the important point is that women can become just as aroused as men – perhaps even more so. All it takes is time and patience. You might have heard the expression “A woman’s biggest sexual organ is her brain.” Some say woman’s biggest sexual organ is her skin, because touching her skin can most effectively deliver the kind of stimulation a woman needs to become truly aroused. And it does not even matter how you do it, as long as you do it sensitively, with patience, and take your time.

Hint: Kissing with your lips and tongue is a very good idea, but then so is stroking, gentle touch, and different types of touch such as scratching, caressing, patting, rubbing and so on. In trying all these things you need to be a confident lover, a powerful man. You need to be confident enough to explore what turns your woman on. You also need to listen to the feedback she offers you (with the tone of her voice, the words that she says, and the way her body moves). To be absolutely honest, you can’t go wrong if you pay attention to the way she’s responding to your touch.

Knowing how to satisfy a woman is important. Many men complain that women are not easy to arouse or especially interested in sex – but often it’s the man who is at fault. That could be you!

Either you are not wooing her emotionally and psychologically, or you are not providing her with the physical pleasure she needs to be truly satisfied in bed.

Take a long time over foreplay, which is actually better described as loveplay. That way you can easily give your woman an orgasm even before you enter her. That will give her all the pleasure she desires, so you can then enjoy fantastic lovemaking with her. This will reinforce your relationship and make her much happier.

The second thing you can do is adopt the coital alignment technique for lovemaking.

If you’re in a relationship, isn’t it worth making sure that your partner is happy and satisfied every time you make love?

What’s the point of being in a relationship unless you’re truly aiming to pleasure your partner, and of course, I need hardly add, be pleasured in return? Mutual satisfaction and pleasure during sex is essential in a relationship and the coital alignment technique offers this, easily and reliably.

So the first thing to note is that if you’re not enjoying mutual sexual pleasure in your relationship, something is wrong. You need to start communicating about what’s needed to put things right.

You need to start communicating more specifically about the kind of sexual experiences each of you needs. Does she want more foreplay? Does she want to try the coital alignment technique?

Men often find it difficult to communicate. Men sometimes see women as creatures of feeling and emotion – which may feel like a foreign country for men. But what it takes for you to be successful in a relationship is simple: adapt  to become a man who can satisfy your woman’s needs.

That is profoundly satisfying for you, too! It’s actually the way most men are programmed – to provide pleasure and satisfaction for a woman. So readjust your thinking: eliminate the residual belief that sex is all about your pleasure, and that penetration should occur as quickly as possible, and that once you’ve ejaculated, sex is over and done with.

The readjustment of your thinking needs to go something like this: mutual pleasuring is essential. A woman has just as much right to an orgasm during sex as you do. A great way to do this is for you to pleasure her by taking her to orgasm orally or manually before you enter her. When a woman has already come, and you then enter her, your pleasure will be considerably greater. That’s because her vagina will be warm, wet and receptive, and this will be absolutely delightful for you when you make love with her.

The other interesting thing worth pointing out about this technique (of giving the woman an orgasm before you enter) is that it’s EASY! If you’re interested in pleasuring your partner, this approach (making her come first) makes it easy. The reason such an approach to sex has not been part of our sexual culture up till now is because sex has traditionally been defined by the patriarchy as something women give to men whenever they want it.

Now is the time for men to transition into a more mature relationship with women.

The Coital Alignment Technique

Using the coital alignment technique can show your woman that you are more interested in the quality of mutual sexual pleasure. This is preferable to “taking pleasure” from a woman just because you see it as your right as a man. Don’t forget that when you complain (or think resentfully) about the way your woman acts in your relationship, a large part of that dynamic is probably down to the fact that you’re not meeting or satisfying her needs in any way.

Do you resent making efforts to improve lovemaking, such as learning how to use the coital alignment technique? That’s a very good question to ask yourself! If you think the answer may be yes, chances are she may be resentful because you’re not taking more time in bed to pleasure her. The CAT is one way of doing this.