Personal stories of living with a small penis
A personal story
(submitted by "J")
My name is J and I
have a very small penis. Sounds like the Alcoholics Anonymous greeting!! I have
always been ashamed of it and didnít really think about others having the same
problem. It doesnít seem to have grown in size since I was about 14 or 15. When
it is not flaccid it measures 2.5" and when it is erect is measures 4" long and
4" around the thickest part of the shaft.
I have lots of hang
ups about having a small cock and I hope that writing down my early experiences
will kind of help me as Iíve never really been able to be this frank with anyone
face to face. I think it would be good to hear from others about when they first
realized that they had small penises, the impact it had on them and how they
dealt with it. From what some people say, there are similarities with other
people's experiences too.
This is my story, so
here goes: I was 23 last week and it was my birthday that caused me to start
thinking in detail again about my penis size which led me to find this web site.
I first realized that something wasnít quite right at the age of about 15. I
grew up in Zimbabwe in southern Africa.
Puberty started at
the same time as the other boys at round the age of 13 and 14 when I started
masturbating, getting pubic hairs, spots and my voice broke. So much was
happening to our bodies at that age, and we were all very curious. We would talk
about and often show each other and compare ourselves when getting changed or
showering before and sports at school.
For the boys who
started developing early, they would show off their wares to the wonder of all
the other boys. Size wasnít really an issue at 14, although I do remember one
boy having a large "man's" penis with lots more hairs than the rest of us.
We were all very
envious of him, and although in other respects he was nothing special, this
alone gave him a higher status than the rest of us and put him at the top of our
Approaching the age
of 16 most of the other boys were catching up with this guy as they gradually
developed adult-sized penises. Because these things happen slowly over time, I
was only vaguely aware that mine wasnít increasing at the same rate as the
others and I was starting to fall behind. In fact even as a young boy I probably
had a slightly smaller than average penis, but at that age everyoneís is pretty
small so it's not an issue.
No one else had ever
mentioned it and I had never given it a second thought. All these thoughts were
still just at the back of my mind and I hadnít consciously taken on that by now
most other boys had bigger penises while mine was still much the same size at it
had been when I was 14.
Now my brother is 2 years younger than me and his birthday is exactly a week
before mine. On his 14th birthday all the relatives came round and we had the
usual family gathering. They all "oohed" and "aahed" about how
grown-up he had become, which made me sit up and notice.
Yes, he was growing
up very quickly. He was always well built, but looking at him now, I could now
see how big he had become, his voice had broken early and he had a deep manly
baritone voice. One of my aunts jokingly quipped to me that I better watch out
because he was catching up on me fast, and that I would soon have to start being
polite to him.
My bother was very athletic and I wasnít as broad
boned as he was, so apart from being a bit taller, I was not really bigger or
stronger than him in any case. As one set of relatives had traveled a long
distance, they were staying the night and using my brotherís room so he was
sleeping on a camp bed in my room.
bedrooms, it had probably been some months since I had last seen my brother
undressed so as we got ready for bed it came as a quite shock to me to see how
quickly my brother had developed. I could not believe it. He had what looked to
me like a proper adult penis, quite long and thick, with lots of thick hair
He was obviously
very well developed for his age, easily on a par with most and better than some
of the boys of my age. He must have been the biggest amongst his peers giving
him a superior status.
Without a doubt he was bigger than me.
The length might have been not that much more, but it was the thickness which made it look so big and grown up. He noticed me gawping and made
some joke about how all the aunties would "ooh" and "aah" if they
could see how big he was now, and he seemed quite comfortable and used to
showing it off.
To hide my
embarrassment, I said something like "My God, you are growing up! Theyíre right,
I might have to start being polite to you soon." He put his night clothes on, I
still had to get undressed and he was talking to me while watching me. I knew it
was going to be awkward to try and turn away and hide myself when I took my
pants off, but then even that option was taken away. Suddenly the spotlight was
on me as he said quite innocently "Go on, let's see what Iíve got to beat then
if I want you to be polite to me."
He obviously thought
that being brothers it would be in the genes and I would also be big for my age.
Before I had seen
him a moment ago, this request wouldnít have bothered me in the slightest, and I
would have had no qualms about letting him see me get undressed.
But now everything
had changed and I was terrified, but there was no way out. With my heart pumping
like mad, I had no option but to undress in front of him.
Very nervously I
took off my pants and not sure whether to just stand there and let him look, or
to quickly put on the night clothes. I remember his reaction - "Shit!" he
exclaimed - and I just stood dejectedly in front him. After that I canít
remember exactly what we said.
I know it ended up
with him dropping his trousers for a proper comparison. Remember I said that his
penis probably wasnít much longer than mine. Standing side by side made things
look very different and measuring up, the results were even more damning.
I canít remember our
dimensions in inches, but I was shocked to find he was nearly double my length,
but it was still his superior width (about double as well) which made such a
huge contrast in appearance.
His looked really
thick and fleshy while mine in comparison was like a little thin worm.
In fact thatís how
he described it: "a little worm". From then on he always called me by this new
Picking up again on
my auntís comment he said that now I had better start being polite to him.
During the following 24 hours he went on and on about it to me. He was over the
moon with this unexpected turn of events and was making the most of it.
I on the other hand
felt quite humiliated and just tried to keep a low profile hoping that this
would all blow over. In the following week leading up to my birthday, our
I at first kept
quiet and let my brother gloat waiting for it to tail off. That was probably a
mistake, because in some way which I donít know how to explain he had challenged
my position, and by not asserting myself, I had not defended it and so he some
how "won" and came out on top. I not sure how I expected this "victory" to
manifest itself, but I accepted that I would now have to treat him more like an
wasnít the case, and without me realizing it, in a few short days at each
challenge I relinquished more ground and he consolidated his position as the
dominant one, sort of top dog or leader, and in that sense my aunt had been
prophetic and I did now have to be polite to him.
At the end of this
eventful week was my birthday party. I now had to try and cope with my brother's
new status, but I told myself that it was because he was just a very early
developer, and nothing would change among my peers and friends as I was still
much the same as them.
This kept on nagging
at me all week. I kind of brought to my consciousness the thoughts I previously
mentioned about my development falling behind them. I tried as hard as I could
to recall what they looked like in the showers, but it hadnít been such an issue
before I hadnít taken that much notice.
I knew it would be
resolved on my birthday, because another boy at school had the same birthday, so
we had arranged a joint barbeque party, but starting with a water polo match, me
and my school friends versus him and his school friends, so there would be at
least 30 boys getting changed and showered with whom I could compare myself.
When the time came,
I felt like everyone would be staring at me and know that I was staring at them.
When you see people change gradually you donít often notice how they much they
are growing until someone points it out. Looking at all these boys, I realized
that they all seemed to have significantly bigger penises than me and I was
surprised that I hadnít noticed that there was such a big difference before.
I was definitely a
lot smaller than just below average. Probably in the same way that I didnít
notice how big they had grown, they hadnít noticed that my cock hadnít grown
very much and was still very small. At this point I felt almost as if my world
had caved in.
Later that evening
me and a few friends had stashed some beer away and w found a dark corner of the
garden and got a bit drunk. With the help of the drink, and feeling very sorry
for myself I plucked up the courage, I told this group of friends about my
They admitted that
now thinking about it, it was small for my age and yes on reflection they did
think that I had the smallest one in our age group.
Also, once I had
drawn attention to it, they all took the next opportunity of looking at it and
then they realized exactly how deficient I was. Once something like this was
out, you couldnít stop it, and soon it was common knowledge and rumors started
growing that I had the smallest cock in the whole school and so I was on the
receiving end of a lot of teasing, with the most persistent offenders being the
juniors who somehow now felt superior to me.
At school you canít
avoid having to get changed in the presence of other kids, often with boys of
all ages. The thing is that as you get older, and the rest of your body develops
and gets bigger too, a small penis looks even smaller in comparison, and I knew
mine looked out of place and ridiculous.
A year on, at the
age of 17 I had just started shaving the first sprouts of beard on my face, but
down below there was still no change. It was in that year that I finally gave up
any hope of any increase in my size.
Some of the most
humiliating times were when I was 18 in my final year.
All my peers were
strutting about like men, getting girlfriends and generally lauding it over the
rest of the school and then there was me, still feeling like a boy and too
nervous to ask any girls out. Even in our final year there were still occasions
when we had to use the changing rooms with 13 and 14 year old first year kids.
I was painfully
aware that while the other "men" of my age enjoyed the admiring and envious
glances from the juniors, there were even one or two of these first year kids
with more adult looking penises than mine.
A few of the kids
had the balls to openly make comments, or wisecracks and then everyone would
laugh, and I couldnít really do anything about it because invariably those
laughing loudest were the boys of my age.
However that wasnít
as bad as the whispered comments and sniggering behind my back. My brother did
continue to develop and by the time he was 16 or 17 his penis was fully
developed and to this day although I donít know the exact measurements, he
definitely has a much larger than average one. We occasionally play squash
together and in the showers he still sometimes teases me but not maliciously.
Although I am 23
now, I have had a few girlfriends, but I am still a virgin because Iím so
embarrassed about my size, but I guess most of it is in my head, and there are
many women who wouldnít mind at all, so Iím just waiting to find one of these
A personal opinion on
I am also one of the
ďpenile challengedĒ. My penis when fully erect is approximately 4.25 inches in
length with a circumference of 4.15 inches at the widest part of the shaft and
4.5 inches around the corona. I donít even bother to measure it when flaccid
because there is considerable variation depending on too many external factors
to obtain a reliable measurement.
Like most Americans
born in the 1950ís I was circumcised soon after birth and now that I am in my
middle 40ís I am losing sensation in my glans. The loss of sensation has led to
difficulty in maintaining and erection during intercourse. Which ironically is
happening at the same time my wife is experiencing increasing sexual desire now
that she is a postmenopausal woman. The situation has added to the anxiety and
frustration I already feel over my size.
I too have struggled a lifetime with feelings of sexual inadequacy, low
self-esteem, social inferiority, envy, and helplessness. After more than
15 years of a loving and committed marriage my wife and I still are
uncomfortable when confronting and discussing the myths, realities, and my
feelings regarding size and the emotional impact it has had on my mental
wellness and our relationship.
I also donít place a great deal of
credibility in any of the Size Surveys on the Internet (or anywhere else for
that matter). I have problems with the lack of control over sampling techniques
and metrics used by many of these studies. I do not believe that 6.5 inches is
an accurate mean (average) for the greater population and I also have problems
with the 5.1 or 5.2 inch figure mentioned elsewhere. I know that if I were to
respond to an Internet survey I would say that my cock is 5 inches long and 5
inches around and if a urologist were to answer the same question after
examining me he/she would answer 4.0 and 4.5 inches.
So my estimate is that the real
number is probably between 5.8 and 6.0 inches length and 5.0 inches in
circumference when erect. When you look at studies of other human anatomical and
physiological attributes, such as height for instance, you see that the
observations are closely ordered around the mean resulting in less variance and
therefore a smaller order of magnitude for the standard deviation.
You might be saying, so, how does
that relate to studies of size and what does it mean to me?
It is my belief the standard
deviation numbers produced by these studies are greatly overstated. For example
one of the Internet studies says the mean size is 6.5 inches with a standard
deviation (+-) 1.2 inches; if the distribution of observations is actually
normally distributed around the mean (a bell curve) this would indicate that
~66% of the population has penis lengths within (+-) 1 standard deviation from
the mean (5.3 to 7.7 inches) and ~96% would be within (+-) 2 standard deviations
from the mean (4.1 to 8.9 inches). If the variation in penis size is consistent
with the variation in other human anatomical and physiological attributes
(closely ordered around the mean) you would expect to see the lower numbers come
up and the higher numbers come down. For example if 6.0 inches were the actual
mean with a standard deviation of .75 inches (which I think is a more realistic
number) then ~66% of the population would be between 5.25 and 6.75 inches in
length and ~96% between 4.5 and 7.5 inches.
This is disturbing news for those of
us in the 2% of the population on the left side of the curve below 4.5 inches.
If this were any other human physical condition there would be private and
federal money poring in for a remedy and cure for our suffering.
It is also my opinion that as
societies have evolved, other factors (mostly psychological), such as
perceptions safety, security, the ability to provide, and etc., can compensate
and/or offset the pleasure attributed to size alone.
The perception a woman has regarding
these other factors plays a role in the sexual experience by having a positive
or negative impact on what a woman derives emotionally from the sexual
relationship with a man.
This would explain how some one like
me can have a lasting and satisfying monogamous sexual relationship with a woman
and even father her children and some of the other males who belong to the 2% of
the population on the right side of the curve (7.5 inches or more) cannot
maintain a successful lasting intimate relationship with a female. Perhaps these
individuals have never learned how to produce the other more psychological
From my personal experience: I once had a roommate
who by all accounts was at least 1 (possibly 2) standard deviation(s) from the
mean in length and girth but the was lonely and miserable despite the fact women
would croon over him. Sometimes I could hear his partners moaning and screaming
in ecstasy, often they would actually come to tears of exhilaration as he
pounded their flesh in his room.
After the first couple of encounters
with him, many of his girlfriends would never be heard from again. Some of these
women would just use him for sex while maintaining relationships with another
male, leaving him feeling dejected and bitter. I know many of you are saying to
yourself ďWhat's the big deal! I should be so lucky! If it were me things would
be different; I would just enjoy what came my way.Ē
He could never understand how I
could maintain long lasting loving relationships where sex was something to be
shared and experienced between a man and a woman and not just some primordial
selfish conquest for him and his partners. He longed for a relationship as much
as I longed for a night of physical uncivilized sex with woman.
I was envious of his ability to
bring such basic satisfaction to a woman from sheer physical prowess; I was
especially envious of his ability to do so without the requirement of
establishing an emotional foundation first. I was also envious of his own
confidence in his ability to produce this result. He would seldom let an
opportunity for sex pass, but I often would due to lack of confidence in my
Advice from the small penis
forums at Measurection.com
This is a small set of extracts from the various forums on the net. The best thing about these forums is that they offer a
chance top understand that you are not alone with your concerns, and that there
are hundreds if not thousands of guys out there who know exactly what you are
going through. The forums cover both gay and straight men, and bisexual men as
well. I think it is a fact that whatever you are looking for you will be able to
find it in these groups. The extracts are edited, but they give a good flavor of
the discussions that spring up and wax and wane. Well worth a look. And my
thanks are due to the guys whose questions and answers I have quoted.
and appearance - does a lot of fat hide the penis?
I lost 68 pounds and gained an inch.
My cock was just under 4 inches when I was 400 lbs, but managed to stretch over 5" when
I lost weight. Five inches is certainly not the biggest tool in the workshop, but it still
can satisfy a good percentage of the female population out there.
And how small can a penis be?
When flaccid, I'm either 1/2" or it goes inside: when hard I'm about 4".
I am just a tad over 3 inches erect and 1/2 inch soft.
I'm 3.75 inches long x 4 in circumference fully erect.
Here's one for ya...anyone else like this?? Under normal conditions
(temperature, boxer shorts), my dick measures a full 4" long and 4 .75" around soft. Sure, I'm no horse and don't really
like showing it off around better-hung guys, but for the most part it looks
fine and the women who have seen it soft have said it looks like a decent sized dick. But when I get hard all I've got is 5 1/8 inches. It fills out a bit and angles upward at 45
degrees but hardly gets any longer. Just stiffens. One girlfriend who I was able to talk to did say that she thought when she first saw it that
I would be much bigger with a hard-on. She had another guy who was three inches soft and climbed
to 7" hard. I know that some guys with huge soft dicks don't get much longer hard...but anybody else like
me with a average size soft dick that doesn't grow much?
And a reply from a gay man who claims lots of experience in the
Dicks like yours aren't real, real common, but they're common enough that it wouldn't even
rate a mention..... I don't mean to make light of something that is bothering you, I just want you to know that it's pretty common. I have the reverse syndrome (3
inch soft to 7 hard) and I'd guess that those 2 kinds are about equal in
occurrence. As a straight guy, other guys will only see you soft, so being over-average when soft is probably good. If you are seeing lots of guys in
the locker room with soft dicks larger than yours, guess what?. They ain't totally soft! Don't drop
the soap, dude! Oh, and 5 1/8 inches isn't far off average length, either. Stop worrying!
Just what is average? Apparently not what we
We've all been looking at an "average" size that's one inch larger than what the current
statistics say really is average. It's 5.03" and NOT 6". How many of us with 5" cocks
consider ourselves smaller than average now?
The incredible shrinking
I'm a board certified urologist in practice for more than 18 years, and I have seen more dicks
than I really care to admit. Average size is indeed shrinking according to urology clinical literature....I suggest you hit MedLine if you don't believe the
statistics. Men who are between 4.75 and 6.75 inches when erect are now considered normal.
The studies which established this size range were conducted far more stringently: with
more men and under better clinical controls. The largest erection I have ever seen in my practice is 12 inches (on a white patient).
The smallest was 0.75 inches (on a black patient). As for the contention that there is ANY
connection between genetics and penis size - this is NOT correct. NO credible evidence
has ever been offered in clinical literature to suggest such a link (eg dad had a big dick so I
will too....that kind of reasoning).
Does your Dad's dick size have any effect on yours?
My father, my brother and I all have the same (rather undersized) flaccid cock, about 1.5-2"
long (I've never seen either with a hard-on and don't want to -- LOL!). My paternal male
cousins, sons of my father's sister, are all generously hung (he has no brothers).
So are my maternal male cousins, sons of my mother's brother. My father, my brother and I
share the same Y chromosome -- it determines maleness and is passed down unchanged,
father to son to grandson. But my male cousins on both sides of my family have different
surnames and different Y chromosomes.
1. Does anyone know of any research on the effect of Y chromosome heredity on cock size?
2. Assuming you have no medical anomalies, how do your soft cocks compare in size to those
of your father, brother(s), and paternal male cousins, the sons of your father's
All of you should have the same Y chromosome. (In fact even very distant male cousins,
provided they each have an unbroken paternal line back to a common male ancestor -- usually
meaning that they have the same surname -- share the same Y chromosome.)
The answers provided were all very clear: there is no connection between size down the male father-son generations. (And that isn't
surprising, because penis size isn't determined by the Y chromosome alone). Here was one typical answer, arrived at in a fairly
My cock (age 61) is 5.5 inches long hard. My son's
cock (age 39) is 6inches hard. My
grandson's (age 16) is 7.5 inches hard. The only constant factor is the male side
was blood related from me to them, but the female blood line was mixed! So, maybe mom's
father's cock size is a factor? PS: And yes, we openly measured....we're all nudists and ran
the tape by each family "member" poolside at the house just for the hell of it! The measuring
session was fun, though not necessarily sexual or erotic. My grandson popped a woody on
request; my son shyly tugged it up to full length and I, well I'm at the age where ya'
have to rub the damn thing with steel wool just to get its attention, but,
surprisingly, I rose to the occasion in rather short time...The entire contest took about 5 or 6 minutes
to complete. My son and I went up and down, but the kid.. well he went up and stayed up for
a while... just stood around, pointing at us, hands on hips, gloating! We reminded him
that it was our genes and our food that gave him that swingin' beauty. I'm glad he has more
than his dad and I, for life today is too complicated to waste time pondering about the
length of one's cock. He, of course, can set aside that issue and find another body part
to worry about!
So what about hard and soft size?
When erect I'm about 5.25" long by 2" wide at the maximum width (about 6.5" in girth). Average
length, above-average width. Okay, but nothing to brag about - though I suspect most women
would prefer width to length, if they were forced to choose (they don't use No. 2 pencils for
dildos!). What bothers me is that when flaccid I'm only about 1.5-2" long. Sure, soft size
doesn't count in sex, but it's embarrassing in the locker room - or standing at a busy
row of urinals (I always try to give a secret extra tug when pulling it out to piss, just to temporarily increase its length).
Anyone else have this problem? Mini-soft but average hard?
I sort of have the same problem. I'm also 5.25 hard, although not as much girth as you.
However, my soft size fluctuates like the wind. I can be 3.5 or so soft - but I can also be 1.5 give or take. It's real frustrating at times, especially if you are trying "to make a good showing" and you have no idea exactly what size you're going to be holding when you
pull it out of your pants. Oh well, give it that extra tug to go on about your
problem - urinating, in public or private
I'm probably smaller and shorter than most of you guys. When I sit on the toilet I lean forward
and have to push my dick down to pee. If I don't, the pee stream not only goes forward and
misses the toilet . . . it actually goes upward! Am I anatomically weird, or do other small
guys have to do this too?
I have the exact same problem! I'm about 1/2" soft and that includes foreskin so it I have to
make a "V" out of my index and middle finger to hold my little dick down. It usually dribbles
down my balls too so I have to wipe them afterward. Doesn't make me feel very masculine, that's
Great message, I am with you guys, and I thought I was the only one. I have the same problem
of stopping the flow as I push my dick back and then when I think I've stopped pissing
it all comes out after I am about to pull my underwear up. Thanks. I've needed to share
and hear this stuff. Real uptight and ashamed of my dick for years.
What bothers me is a "Bashful Kidney". I simply cannot pee if anyone else is in the room. Individual stall urinals don't help, and the open kind or trough is agony. If no private toilet stalls are available for me to sit, I can't pee.
Note - there are (or were) support
groups for this condition ("parauresis"). They seem to be
still around but I'm not sure they are active. There are some useful
links, though, all the same. Here are the URL's:
People can be cruel.
I am about
5" hard, and 2" soft. Have always been humiliated to undress
or shower in front of others. I could see very few had one as small as
mine. My Father didn't help much, as he was always teasing me about my
"little peanut", even in front of others. I remember when I
told my Father that my gym teacher said we were required to use a jock
strap and I didn't have one. My Father laughed and said, "You don't
need one with that little peanut." I cried that time. Being
overweight now compounds the problem as NOTHING shows.
It's all in your head, son! But then I'm sure you know that already. The
thing you need to work on is not to stop worrying about the size of your
penis but to concentrate on the positive things about yourself. If you
equate your self-worth to the size of your cock, you are just as much
of a dick head as the guy who thinks he's a stud because his is
big.....Identify the best parts of who you are and let those things
become the centerpiece of your identity, not your weight or your loss of
hearing, and certainly not that piece of anatomy that allows you to pee.
So what do women want?
I'm getting very confused....I surf to all size forums every night on here and all the info I find confuses me big time because there are so many different views and insights into this question. I have read from medical
specialists that size doesn't matter and that women don't care and.....I have read postings
in forums by women saying how they don't care what size their men are and that size doesn't
matter. Then I read a posting about a guy with a huge penis doing a striptease
in front of women in a nightclub and all the women went crazy. If they don't care about size so much then why do they go ballistic over a well hung guy?
Here's another way of looking at it: sure, those women went wild over the stripper with the big
dick, but don't we also enjoy seeing strippers with huge breasts? Do we think they'll be better
in bed, more satisfying, because they have large breasts? Nope! Applauding at what you are
seeing on a stage doesn't really indicate who you want to sleep with.
I think the real question when it gets down to the nitty-gritty has to do with "Do I accept
myself as I am?" "Do I find my maleness and my dick size attractive and sexy?"
A wise man said "change your thinking and you change your world". Since I have accepted
my under 5 inch cock more and more, I am finding other guys who are short and sexy are paying
me attention too - sexual attention included.
Look really closely at photos of nude males in the magazines - unless they specialize in dicks
of unusual size, many of the men are 4.5-6.5 hard. First figure how many fingers the guy can
get around his dick. Its easy to see that even guys that look long, can get maybe 4 fingers
and a thumb - that is about 5 inches. Notice how high above his pubic hair line his dick extends.
That tells you so much! Many dicks that look big hard, are only at the pube line or slightly
above it. That is an average dick. Notice how big your dick would look if photographed from
below or with a semi-hardon - you know, engorged but not enough to lift it up. Many guys are
photographed at that stage of erection - it looks like a soft one but it's closer to a
hard-on. These are some ways that photos can create illusion. Nude male photographers have many more
techniques to make every guy longer than he is. Strippers get semi-hard, put on a
cock ring, and dance as if they are at total "repose" and very long - in reality, they have a semi-erection.
And another response:
I recently asked several women I work with what they thought about cock size. The group
consisted of many women, of different ethnicities, different religious backgrounds, different
economic statuses, and different body sizes. In group discussions, among their other female
co-workers, all these women seemed to indicate that a larger penis was more desirable. But,
individually (i.e. asking the same question away from other female co-workers) the
women expressed less a concern over a guy's penis size. By no means is this a scientific poll, but
I think it shows a tendency for many people to succumb to "groupthink." The more extroverted
women (in an almost comical manner) expressed strong opinions about cock size and the others
seemed to follow. The group was harmonious. Individually though, women did not seem to care
at all about the size of a guy's penis. Some even said they'd have sex with Tom Cruise
even if they knew he had a two incher. Incidentally, the three most attractive females
had had sexual experiences with a guy with a smaller than average cock. All three said their
experiences sexually with these men were overwhelmingly satisfying. One, perhaps the most
attractive of all, said she was still in love with her less than average sized lover.
I guess this all means that your package is not your total package to most women.
Here's my opinion: I'm bi, and I've probably been to bed with 15 different women. NONE,
not one, ever complained about my 5 incher. Why? Because I had a good personality
before I took them into the sack, and secondly, they knew, being a man, that I HAD a dick to
satisfy them to begin with. I also got to be quite talented with my tongue, to get them very
excited. I've never had a woman laugh or giggle when I took my clothes off. And I've always
been a few pounds overweight. I'm also short in the soft dick department, between 1" and 2"
cut. If I would have ever had a woman laugh (years ago) I would have bolted
for the door after putting my clothes back on. But it never happened. Let's get real here...I've never taken a woman to bed, and after seeing her naked, laughed because her tits were
too small, so what does she stand to gain if she laughs at the man who is there to try and
please her with a dick that's shorter than she expected? In reference to the HUNG striptease guys....let's face it....they have a GREAT
body to begin with. Put a huge dick on that great bod of his and you have something even better.
Do you really think those women would go nuts over a stripper that looked
ugly, even though he might have had a 10" dick? I think not. Besides, if I went to a strip bar with
cute male strippers I couldn't care less how big their dicks were...I'm there for their overall
body (face, abs, ass...) and how they use it. I'll wrap it up by saying SURE I wish I had a huge dick. I don't think there's a man in this
world who wouldn't like to show off a foot long dick. But there are more guys like us
(average and below) then there are of them. So chances are your doctor, lawyer, teacher, mayor
and auto mechanic, not to mention high school friend who got all the chicks, may have very well
had a 4 or 5 incher himself. LOTS of guys out there have one. I joined this forum when it
first opened, and since then I have showered in front of guys, and met several others in person
with my clothes off. This forum has helped me tremendously in knowing that there are a lot
of other guys out there in this world with the same "problem" that I have. And it's not so bad.
Does it cause a problem conceiving?
Being hung short was never an issue until a doctor
friend brought it up when I mentioned that my wife and I were having trouble having a child.
He told me that penis length is a VERY important factor in fertility. He taught me an excellent
position for making love that once we got the hang of it we had a baby right away. Both my wife
and I have taught this to dozens of couples who were having troubles having children (by the
way, all of the guys I talked with told me that they were hung short too, i.e. 5.5 inches or
less erect) and all of the couples (with one exception) have since had children. Here's how:
1) Have your woman place a small pillow under her hips. 2) When you enter into her have her
open her legs wide, bend her knees and pull her knees up to her chest which will allow you much
deeper penetration with your penis. 3) Go as deeply into her as you can and feel for her
cervix, which feels like pressing on the tip of your nose. When you feel her cervix with your
penis stay deep into her and climax. 4) Have her lie still for one hour before getting up.
That's it! Hope this helps other couples too. And be proud of your sexuality - all penis sizes
are equally masculine.
I'm sorry, but I think this doctor is a quack...I'm endowed at about 4" erect, and my wife
became pregnant with twins the first month we tried (and yes, I'm quite certain they're mine).
From what I've read, any size penis, no matter how small, can impregnate a woman. If you're
having trouble, it ain't the length... it's the sperm count!
I also am short, and my wife got pregnant within two weeks of her first period
after we were married. We had our second child within two years after that.
How do you do it
(sex, that is) ?
I am in my late 20's and my cock is 3 inches when soft, 5 inches when hard. I am
circumcised too. I need some advice on when I am having sex with my girlfriend. When we are in the missionary
position I sometimes pop out. This is very frustrating! Advice? Comments? I have also discovered
to my dismay that small sized guys cannot do it doggy style with success.
I recently watched a porno flick and the guy with a 8 or 9 incher kept popping out. Your five
incher is fine. The doggy style should work too. It may be that your gal has to get into a
better or more accepting position. It works for my bride and I and we're not talking about much
difference in size either.
I'm really convinced that the size of your cock is not a obstacle for giving and receiving
pleasure. I think the best position for a guy who is kind of short is with her on top
- and probably the most pleasurable for any woman. This is a very comfortable position that
allows her to get some control, and you don't have to worry about popping out. Also, at the same time you
can use your hand to give some massage to her clitoris; that will make her go nuts and reach an
orgasm. Besides, my friend, any guy not matter his size can pop out. Good Luck.
I am the same size as you and had the same problem. Too much lube can make it pop out. Maybe
the two of you are too "wet." Practice makes perfect. There is no reason you cannot do it
doggie style. It works fine. Another good way is with her on her side and you enter from the
rear - sort of doggie style laying down.
I'm in my 40's, 5 and half inches long when hard with a
circumference of 4 inches and by adopting the appropriate angle and by positioning the woman correctly for a particular style, I manage
to fuck them for their pleasure (and mine!) and only very seldom slipping out - doggy is
fabulous and I've used this position with small and obese women.
Are size and race related?
I don't know about other Asian races but I know about
Korean because I am Korean. I think my size is average size in my country. My length is 4 inches when erect, my girth is 3.5 inches.
I guess the average penis size for an Asian guy is 4 to 5 Ĺ inches when erect. I am Asian and I also have same size
penis as you.
And how does a small dick affect life?
After exercise, my cock is about 1.5 inches long and it just sticks out directly and needs
some encouragement to go back to its normal shape and size. I would just love a swinging dick,
not a dick that sticks out - you know. Generally it's about 2.5-3 inches soft.
I have always had this hang up.
It stops you really letting lose and doing things you should be able to do. I always see guys
with bigger dicks than me so I have begun to realize I have a pretty small cock all in all.
I have friends but I would never compromise my position and let them see my cock. Word could
spread. What do ya think, yes I need psychological help but I am 34 now and many years have
passed with my cock size hang up. All in all I am reasonably happy but I would love a cock
that feels like a cock - a swinging dick that fills your pants.
I know exactly how you feel. I am older than you, but I went through the same feelings. All
my life I avoided sports so I would not have to change in from of others. At some point,
around age 45, I decided I was not going to let my life be dictated by the size of my dick.
I decided to see and be seen. I started swimming at the YMCA. At first I was embarrassed,
but, while I saw many guys with large cocks, I found there were a few just a small as me.
Never did anyone comment on my size. I was amused by the teenagers who hid their dicks, even
though most of them were quite well hung. If you were my son, I would say to you, "You're not
a teenager any more. You are not in competition with anyone. Get on with your life."
You put it so poetically: a "swinging" dick. But, compared to me, you are really hung. My cock is about 2 inches flaccid; but there's no giving a definitive size because of all of the things that we do and all of the contracting effects that this has on the little guy - swimming, crouching down etc. You know what? I've had a hip problem for about 8 years.
It happened one night when I was out running; all of a sudden my hip just lost its strength
and I limped all of the way home. Over the last 8 years, it has played up intermittently but
I won't go and see a physio about it because they will ask me to strip down to my underwear
and they will be manipulating in an area of my body that is just a hands-length away from my
little guy! This is the extent of the hang up that I have ... I won't strip down to my
underwear in front of people. It's an absolute fucking bitch of a problem when a guy's got
a little dick. I'm 31 and I've said that this year will be the one that I go out and get
myself laid (yep .. still a virgin at 31!) If the guy laughs (I'm gay) then fuck it;
I can handle it.
Recently, my wife and I rented Boogie nights. This led to sex, and a discussion of penis length. I told her I was 4 1/2" which I had always told her, but she wanted to measure me, anyway. To my
surprise, I came up at 4 1/4". This got us onto the subject of a big dick. She just blurted out, with a laugh that the first guy she slept with was twice my size and very thick (she had measured him). I'm a little on the thin side, also.
We have good sex, but she got this look in her eyes, I asked what she was thinking, she said she
was thinking about this guy and how good he felt. She then went on to tell me about her other
three lovers who were all at least 2" longer. She's never said anything about size before, I am
strangely turned on by the fact that she is expressing her dissatisfaction with my size.
Any others like me?
really can be all in the mind!
I wanted to say a few words about my personal experience. For most of my life, I've had a crippling lack of confidence when it came to my size. I have avoided undressing
in front of males at any cost, and have always cringed at jokes/comments about penis
size. Often, I have had bouts of depression over the issue as well. I have had few sexual experiences
as a result... only one partner up until now. It was a 5 year relationship, and the sex was
actually very good for most of it. My girlfriend always claimed that my size was fine and that
she was very much satisfied and very much in love. From her physical reaction in bed, things seemed to work fine. My conception of my problem, however, continued throughout the entire
relationship. We later broke up for unrelated reasons. A few months ago, I decided to check around the Internet to see if there was any information about average penis size. I found this
board and other sites devoted to the topic, and was surprised to find out I was "average"
(I'm 6" long by 5.5" girth, 23yrs old, 5'11'', 155lbs). At first, I really didn't believe it.
I mean, I've been seeing/hearing things from people and the media and the porn industry my whole life that said what I had was small. Every time I was in the locker room and looked
around, it seemed everyone else was so much bigger. My point here is that, although I have a relatively normal package, my perception of it was so skewed that I was *convinced* my
cock was abnormally small. I was convinced even though I seemingly fully satisfied a woman for close to 5 years. The truth is, I still cannot shake it... it's like the 60lb anorexic peering into a mirror and still seeing a fat person. I second guess the studies, still really can't
undress in front of others, and avoid relationships from embarrassment and lack of confidence. I think
I may be getting better because I'm starting to realize the absurdity of my feelings... but I
still have the feelings. I apologize if I don't make sense... I just had to get it out I
you need to learn to love yourself.
My cock is only 5 inches long and it's bent to the
left. The bend really makes me feel bad about myself. When I look into the mirror I just see an ugly
freak of nature. Another thing is that the bend makes me look smaller than I really am.
So what I wanna know is if there is anyway to straighten my penis out before I die from penis depression?
Guys: I work with a large number of men counseling on sexual matters. I want to be able to offer more help to these great guys who have a negative image of themselves
due to short dick size. It can really limit a person's pleasure and relationship
as you probably know. It often damages self esteem. Please let me know what has helped
you....seeing pictures of attractive men with short cocks? Therapy? This forum? Talking to other shorties? Support groups? How about showing it, or telling
others about it? I would really be happy to hear what you have to say and to be able to pass you experiences and wisdom to others.
I think feeling good about a smaller cock begins as a teenager. My dad was small and helped me fell ok about mine in a very natural way. He was always the first to strip in the
locker room and the last to get dressed. He taught me that size wasn't something to hide and be ashamed
of. He talked to me and shared his positive experiences with sex also. I'm proud of my smaller than average cock!
how important is it in the end that you have a small penis? (and
don't miss the irony....)
So let's get something
straight.....is being A Man really about how much you have between your legs???
Yes, it is. Manhood is about dick size, plain and simple. There are no other considerations whatsoever. In fact, all the other organs of the body are non-descript and unimportant; only the penis matters,
and only a large one at that! Huge dick size should be the lone criterion for any arena in which manhood
- indeed, personhood - is at stake. It should be a law that only
big-dicked men can have driver's licenses, be offered jobs, or own property of any kind. No credit card company should extend credit unless it's to a man with an enormous
pecker. And of course, the list just continues into myriad realms of human life, the common
bond among those realms being the absolute cosmic requirement of a stupendous dong. Thank you for asking.
Well, I know that must be a rhetorical question...because nearly everyone would acknowledge
that cock size is not the measure of manhood.
But in the Real World, men with short cocks are humiliate and made fun of by other
men especially, but also by some women. Many guys feel like they are more manly by being bigger than other guys. No matter how much A Man some guy might be, being humiliated,
embarrassed and told "you
have enough" well that leaves a mark on a guy's sense of self worth. This most often happens when a guy is very young and quite
impressionable. For gay men, the gay culture talks about big dick. The nude models and the porno stars often
have huge cocks or are made to look like they have them.
Men are 20 years behind women. Women started getting rid of the big tit bullshit then. We are
just getting our consciousness raised.
Quote from a guy
who emailed this site:
Yeah, I'm 2 and
a quarter inches erect. I often also think these guys with 4 and 5" are lucky. I guess,
it's all relative, eh?
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I joined the gym and psyched myself to shower
there after a work out. Walked in.... heart began beating, waited a few minutes,
wanted to strip off, couldn't do it, then left. It's the fears that are killing
me, not the size. How do you get rid of the fears ? That's the question!!
Advice, general chat welcome. Personal experiences always appreciated. Thanks to
I am a chubby Asian American gay male with 3.5 inches hard. I
used to think being gay was a curse. The same was true of being chubby. But I
used to think the biggest curse was the small curse. Sometimes I'm not even 1.5
inches soft...it doesn't look good in the shower. All of these
"curses" combined to make me a sexual recluse. I didn't have my first
sexual contact until I was in my early thirties. So I missed out on life. Don't
let penis size make you a recluse. You may get bumped and bruised in the
process, but those bumps and bruises are better than hiding from sex or hiding
But those curses kept me from having sex during a
time when there was little known about HIV/AIDS... Maybe those curses saved my
life? I'll never know for sure. How does one overcome having a small cock? How
does one overcome being a different race or religion? How does one overcome
being fat or skinny; tall or short? How does one overcome being different
looking, being too young, too old, being blond, being brunette or a redhead?
It's really all the same. We all have preferences. And no matter who you are,
you may be rejected or made fun of because of any number of reasons. Things that
you have no control over. Being rejected or ridiculed for having a small penis
is especially painful. Most of the guys here know that for a fact. But there is
nothing any of us can do about having a small dick - at least not in the
physical size sense. There is no reliable way to make it bigger. So what are the
Accept what you have: enjoy it...it certainly has
the capability to give you great pleasure... and that pleasure is transferable
to you partner. A shared enjoyable mutual experience. Find out what pleases
her...maybe it's your tongue and lips... maybe it's the way you use your hands
on her entire body. Maybe you'll find that you are much more than a dick. Have
confidence. Having any size dick doesn't make you a man. There's just so much
more to it?
Think of your favorite male heroes... how big are
their dicks? We don't know. Yet, we consider them to be real men... because of attitude,
persona and spirit.
Improve yourself. Work on technique. Don't look to improve superficial things.
Learn to listen, converse. Personality, humor, overcome shyness and unreasonable
fear. You've made a first great step... joining a gym. The first step is always
going to be a difficult one. The problem is that in a locker room, the guys who
are better endowed are not afraid to shower and strut their stuff... almost
everyone else goes home sweaty and smelly because of their insecurities. The
fact is there are many men who are average and larger than average that fear
public nudity. Even on this board there are some who refer to being small as a
curse; the funny part is that some of them are average and above average in
Now, honestly... from your description, you are
small. So how does that change the world... What if everyone in the world knows?
What would happen if the other men in the locker room saw your small penis? Does
their opinion matter? Why are they looking at your cock in the first place if
they are straight men? So what if everyone in the world knew you had a small
penis? Then it wouldn't be an issue! Women who have to have a big one wouldn't
give you the time of day yet you'd be free of the fear that people might
find out. Guess what? You'll become more self confident. You will find that many
of the fears that you have are completely unfounded. You will enjoy life
more...much more. So what do you have to lose? Think about it. It's like being
a closeted gay man. It's hard to live life in a closet, but once you come out
you can join the rest of the world. It seems that there is a closet full of
straight small penis-ed guys just waiting to experience life. Take the first
step: shower. And please share the experience!
I have a small penis. About 3.5 inches erect.
I deal with it the same way I deal with
I deal with it the same way I deal with being
I deal with it the same way I deal with getting
I deal with it the same way I deal with being
I deal with it the same way I deal with being
I deal with it the same way I deal with being
I deal with it the same way I deal with having a
sense of humor.
That is who I am. And I am proud of each of those
things, regardless of what others may think. Regardless of what false values,
morals and ideals others propagate. I can only be who I am and cannot or will
not change for anyone. Therefore; the only alternative is to take pride in who
you are. My small penis gives me great joy, and it gives great joy to others.
And those who would reject me for any of the things that define me are the
losers, not me. It's too much work, worry and anxiety trying to "hide"
the fact that I have a small penis, so instead I flaunt it -- along with the
other things I am proud of: Instead of hiding from life, I revel in it. No man
should have to withdraw from life because he feels his penis is too small. It is
a "small" part of who the man is, of who we all are.
There are women and men who would reject a man
with a small cock... just as they would because he has too much hair, not
enough hair, is the wrong height, wrong race, has the wrong color eyes, wrong
religion... but all those wrongs are "right" for someone. Some people
don't make judgment based on any of those factors. They judge you by the kind of
person you are...what's in your mind and heart...those are the people we want to
know, and should know. Rejoice in the fact that you have a penis, regardless
of what few may think! Shed your fears and inhibitions and enjoy yourself. I
guarantee you will not regret it.
A final thought
It may be difficult for men with average or large dicks to understand the
obsession that can develop in less well-endowed individuals. After all, why
should it be such a matter of concern? Well, we equate penis size with manhood.
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