1 Learn how he likes his penis to be handled
His penis is not like your clitoris - it's not highly sensitive and
delicate. So he'll want you to go straight for his penis during sex, and
once you're there he'll want you to apply a firm pressure (though you can
make sex last longer by teasing him and working gradually down his body
towards his penis). Learn how he masturbates, if necessary by watching him,
and you'll soon see the kind of stroke and pressure he appreciates most.
2 Play with his balls
Because men are so penis-centred, they and their partners tend to forget how
sensitive and erotic his scrotum and testicles can be. Play with his balls
as you give him fellatio, for example, and he'll be in heaven. You could
even try taking one at a time into your mouth and gently rolling it around.
3 Play with his perineum
If you haven't discovered the erotic potential of his perineum yet - that's
the area between his scrotum and anus - then another treat's in store. You
can press, lick, stroke and tease this area, right up to his anus, and
increase his sexual excitement enormously.
4 When he comes, stimulate his anus
A finger on his anus when he comes can make a man's orgasm feel much more
intense. If he's near his orgasm, it can make him come there and then. And
if you put a (well-lubed) finger inside him and press his prostate gland
when he comes, he's likely to have a massive orgasm!
5 Talk dirty as you make love
A lot of women are too inhibited to talk dirty during sex, but I'd say most
men like it - a lot. If you tell him to "fuck my hot wet cunt" when you're
both enjoying sex, he's most likely to come there and then!
6 Do something different
If you always employ the same old routine during sex, do something
different. For example, try a different sex position. If you usually have
sex with him on top, roll over so you're doing it on your sides, facing each
other. If you haven't tried woman on top, get up there and ride him. If he
likes rear entry (and which man doesn't?) then let him enter you from behind
while you lie in the spoons position on the bed - that's more intimate than
rear entry but probably just as exciting for him. Or take the initiative,
and seduce him in the kitchen, making love on the table or the floor! These
positions are especially fun to try when you're feeling horny.
7 Try watching porn together
Men like porn, and whether you appreciate it or not, it's here to stay, and
he's most likely using it to get off. But the good news is that there is
some nice erotic stuff around that isn't abusive to women. One name to watch
out for is Femme Productions. Sharing a sexy DVD before you go to bed can
really add a spark of passion and excitement to your sex.
8 Wake him up in the night for sex
A woman can always seduce a man subtly if she puts her mind to it. So see
what happens if you press your buttocks up against him in the night, or if
you press your hot vulva against his cock as he slumbers. Move your hips
around a little as you do this, and he'll soon be raring to go. This might
be best reserved for the nights you don't have an early start next day.
9 Use lube if you need to - or even if you don't
Even if you have a nicely moist vagina, a little extra lube is often a
revelation. Just a squirt of Astroglide or Probe can change the feel of sex
completely, making it seem like a new experience.
10 Try lube inside the condom
Just a little lube inside the condom can make sex much more pleasurable, but
don't use too much or it might just slip off when you least expect it!
11 Be assertive during sex
Take the lead during sex, act like a sex goddess, and do all the work for a
change. Men like their partners to be assertive and sexually dominant from
time to time, because having the responsibility for always initiating sex is
tiring and involves at least some rejection. It's a refreshing change when a
woman acts as the dominant partner.
Yes, girls, men want you to sometimes take the lead and be sexually
assertive. If you aren't sure how to do this, start by climbing on top of
him - the woman on top position can be very empowering for you, and he's
sure to love it. You can control the depth and speed of thrusting,
especially if you tell him to lie still and enjoy it while you ride him!
12 Let him masturbate between your breasts
Ladies, you just don't appreciate how much men like breasts. Even if you're
used to him making a bee-line for them when you make love, you still don't
know....just take it from me, it's like being in heaven when you fold them
around his penis and let him thrust between them.
13 Alternate shallow and deep thrusts during vaginal intercourse
Men often like deep thrusting because it feels more powerful and sexy - and
it makes them come quicker. But a good plan is to switch between deep
thrusts and shallow ones as you make love, because shallow thrusts delay his
orgasm, stimulate his glans and frenulum (the most sensitive bits of his
penis), and they also hit your G-spot.
14 Press back against him as he thrusts
You don't have to be passive during sex. Even in the man on top position you
can thrust back against him, buck your pelvis, and add all your sexual
energy to his. If you're having sex in the rear entry position, get him to
stand still while you move back and forth along his penis.
15 Tell him you how much you want him to fuck you
Assuming your man is just like the rest of us, he'll want to be told how
much you admire, like and desire him. Whereas women want to be cherished by
their partners, the corresponding desire in men is to be respected. Telling
him how skillful and desirable he is as a lover will press all the right
16 Masturbate in front of him...
If you feel inhibited about masturbating in front of your partner - don't.
Seeing you bring yourself off is just about as exciting as it gets for him.
17 ...then make love to him
If you masturbate in front of him, he'll get so turned on, he'll be
desperate to fuck you, and he won't last long when he does!
18 Teach him how you like him to masturbate you
Men aren't the most subtle creatures in the world when it comes to
masturbation, so you may need to coach him in the best ways for you to reach
orgasm. Show him what you like, how you like to be touched, and how this
changes as you get more aroused.
19 Have your orgasm before he enters you
This is especially good for men who have a problem knowing
how to last longer in bed. If he goes down on
you (or masturbates you) until you have an orgasm, the pressure on him not
to come quickly during sex is much reduced. What's more, making love to you
after you've had an orgasm means your vagina will still be hot, wet and
swollen, and this will be a real turn-on for him, not to mention the fact
that it will feel absolutely wonderful for him when he penetrates you.
20 Undress in front of him
Yes, we know you're self-conscious about your body. But here's the good news
- he likes it. He knows it intimately, he makes love to it, and he sees it
as a thing of beauty; he doesn't look for the flaws in it, like you might be
tempted to do. So he'll love watching you undress, and if you add a little
innocent seduction into the process, he'll get turned on and show you how
much he appreciates your body when you do make love.
21 Buy some sexy underwear and wear it like it was made for you
You don't have to feel like a tart if you buy some sexy lingerie and act
like a tease. High quality, pretty underwear is a turn on for both men and
22 Be wanton
It's a common male fantasy to be bedded by a wanton woman who'll act dirty
and uninhibited. You can help him fulfill that fantasy by unleashing the sex
goddess in yourself for a night. For example, try whispering to him when
you're having a night out that you aren't wearing any underwear and that
you're oozing with desire for him. See the look on his face and you'll know
what I mean - but be prepared to have sex the moment you get through your
door when you arrive home!
23 Ask him about his sexual fantasies - and perhaps act them out
But don't laugh when he tells you what they are. He may not have shared his
innermost fantasies with you for all kinds of reasons; they may even be some
of his deepest secrets. Even if you don't want to act them out, respect the
fact that he shared them with you. If you do act them out, have fun, and
don't take it too seriously.
24 Don't alienate him from the bedroom
Pretty frills and bright patterns and colors are all very well, but it's his
bedroom too, and he may appreciate being consulted about how much lace you
want around the place. In short, don't make your bedroom too feminine for
25 Let his penis calm down after sex
Some men have such a sensitive glans after sex that they can't bear to have
it touched for quite a while. So be careful of his penis after you have made
26 Explore his body
Despite being so penis centered, men do like being licked, touched and
stroked all over their bodies. For example, a man's nipples are likely to be
just as sensitive as yours - so encourage him to let you play with them.
Some other places to stroke, tickle and lick him: his legs, buttocks and
armpits; his neck and scalp; his toes; his back.....so that's just about all
over his body, really!
27 Know how to kiss
Yes, it's nice to enjoy gentle kissing, but he'll certainly appreciate a bit
of full-on mouth work from you from time to time. It hints at penetration
and breaks down barriers to intimacy and familiarity.
28 Discover his favorite sexual positions
All the sex positions have something in their favor, but like most men,
he'll have his favorite. It might be man on top for the deep penetration and
feeling of dominance; it might be rear entry for the sheer pleasure of
fucking you from behind; it might be woman on top for the pleasure of lying
back and enjoying the ride. Most likely, it's all of them! But there will be
ways in which you can make it even better for him, perhaps by squeezing his
penis while he's inside you, or wrapping your legs around him when he's on
top. Take the time to find out what turns him on, and he'll show his
gratitude both in and out of the bedroom!
29 Don't fake orgasm
You're not a charity, and it's disrespectful to both of you to pretend
you're sexually satisfied when you're not. If you don't make it to orgasm
during intercourse, have your orgasm from him giving you oral sex before you
have intercourse. Remember, very few woman actually reach orgasm through
intercourse, and most they like it for other reasons such as feeling loved
or giving their partner pleasure.
30 Learn to give great head
Nothing you can do for a man shows you love him like oral sex. Women think
men like it because it feels good - and that's certainly true. But men also
like it because it's the ultimate symbol of acceptance by their partner - that
she will take his most precious part and accept it into her mouth. Good oral
sex is at least as good as vaginal intercourse for me, and many other men as
well, I'm sure. And when you know how to do it well, you'll have a lover keen
to pleasure you in return.
31 Develop a tight vagina
Apart from the fact that a healthy set of PC muscles is good for you, it
does make a difference to men during sex whether their partner has a tight
vagina or not. Some men say that making love to a woman who's had a child is
much less satisfying - well, if the woman has toned up her muscles, with
Kegel exercises, that need not be the case.
So there we are! Some simple tips to make sex great for men. Like it or not,
sex is incredibly important to most men, and most relationships go a lot
better when the partners are enjoying fulfilling sex. If you as a woman get
satisfaction from seeing your man happy in bed, then the tips above go a
long way towards making that happen.
32 Get help with any health problems you
The reason this is important is that you
can't enjoy sex if you happen to have a niggling health problem which make
is uncomfortable for you to engage in any strenuous activity.