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By contrast, a man may want his woman to offer sex regularly, or he might want her to reassure and support him emotionally.
I'm sure you can see how, if men and women have different ways of loving each other, confusion can all too easily arise, and a couple could easily come to the conclusion that in fact they don't love each other when all that is happening is that the means of expression of love are different.
So taking that as a very simple example of how romantic relationships can become convoluted and crossed, it follows that the more information either partner has before, during and perhaps even after a relationship, the more likely it (or the next one) is to be successful. I say after a relationship because I always like to keep open the possibility of relationship repair after a break up. People can always learn from their past mistakes!
And that information is all about what women like and want in a man, or what men like and want in a woman, and what processes, behaviors, attitudes, thoughts and feelings, are the ones most likely to result in a couple spending time together and enjoying a fulfilling relationship.
The more you think about this, the more complicated it becomes. There are many levels of interaction: the emotional, the non-verbal, the verbal, the factual, the physical, and the spiritual.
Even preferences for a particular form of each of these methods of communication can be different between members of a couple.
It's a truism, of course, that people find others on the basis of their physical appearance - after all, this is generally the most common way that people are attracted to each other.
Having said that, you have to take account of the fact that these days many people meet via the Internet, and we don't always portray ourselves accurately on Internet dating sites!
On these sites, it turns out that people are more likely to form a relationship if they have spent a lot of time talking to each other, have an effective communication style, and have gradually come to know each other over time.
Of course some of those criteria for a relationship are equally true for those who meet in a more conventional way.
But the truth is that meeting face-to-face is the way most people still meet, and appearance is a large part of attractiveness.
Furthermore, particularly where men are speaking to women, the man's confidence, masculinity, and gender confidence (by which I mean his sexual self-confidence, his rootedness in his masculinity, and so on) are critical factors in determining whether or not a woman will find him attractive.
Conversely, women tend to apply certain "tests" to a man to check out his characteristics -- specifically, to check out his masculinity, his power, and his sexual attractiveness.
Now, while psychologists might say that things like good communication skills and emotional intelligence are the basis of a successful relationship, the truth of the matter may be simpler: revealing an open heart and showing your vulnerability to your partner might be the critical factors which reveal qualities such as trust, reliability, emotional maturity and so on.
Many people forget that we all have needs, and that our needs are not necessarily going to be met by our partner; it's certainly true that a lot of people enter into relationship with the expectation their needs will be fulfilled by their partners.
However, if one partner is unaware of the other partner's needs, or if their primary needs take different forms, then neither partner may end up satisfied and fulfilled, and the relationship may split up because they regard each other as uncaring.
The point I'm getting at is that if you want to maximize your chance of getting into a relationship you have to be a little bit proactive. You can't rely on chance, and you can't rely on your past experience to guarantee a successful relationship.
That's where the Internet has been incredibly helpful in helping many people overcome their lack of knowledge, confidence, and even basic understanding of relationships.
Some of the programs with information about getting into a successful relationship are extremely useful and very helpful to men and women alike.
I suppose it's possible to see this as slightly manipulative, but I prefer to regard it as actually a natural expression of the way humans have met partners for generations.
There may be something we have forgotten about human nature: the fact that we have been genetically programmed over millennia of evolution to behave in certain ways, and that when we do behave in those ways we are often most fulfilled and most truly human.
The problem is that modern society tends to imbue us with a number of belief systems about how we should behave, or what's appropriate in our relationships with the opposite sex.
I question this. I wonder if women are actually most fulfilled, as a general rule, when men are more or less dominant and women more or less submissive; when men take responsibility in certain areas and women and women take responsibility in other areas.
Be that as it may, research has certainly demonstrated that Capture His Heart is one of the more successful programs on the Internet and whether you regard it as simply a list of dating tips for women, or something more significant, the reality is that if you want a date, a relationship, or a lifelong partner, or indeed if you want to get married, this might be something that holds a lot of valuable information for you.
Equally there is a program for men wanting a relationship called the Tao of Badass (written by by Joshua Pellicer), which is all about helping men find their truly masculine selves, and ensuring they know how to behave towards women from their greatest masculine power and integrity.
To buy into this, of course, you have to assume that women want a Badass!
And of course that that raises the question of what exactly a "Badass" might be....
The answer seems to that it is a man who knows exactly how to behave towards women in a way which makes them regard him with admiration, respect and perhaps even sexual attraction.
Again, manipulative? Possibly, but open your mind to the possibility that this isn't manipulative, but natural. The truth is, having tried it, I can tell you it works -- and it seems to be great fun for both the man and the woman concerned!
I've already touched on the issue of physical attractiveness as far as the Internet dating scene is concerned.
Once again, it seems most people will rate themselves at a certain level of attractiveness, and will then look for partner of similar attractiveness.
It follows, therefore, that if you as a man want to find yourself in relationship with the most attractive women, you should do everything you can to improve your appearance and desirability from a physical point of view.
This is going to increase the likelihood of you getting into a good relationship with an attractive woman. Since male confidence depends to a large extent on having a sexually attractive body, I suggest that if you're serious about dating, serious about your own health, and serious about sitting squarely in your masculinity, then the building a better body is more or less a necessity for you as a man.