The size of the penis and vagina size
Question: I have a small penis, and the question of vagina size has been an endless source of anxiety for me. In particular, I find that I always lose my erection when I am with a woman who has a very large vagina. Is this a common experience among the other members of this forum?
Answers (each paragraph is a separate
The answer for us has been to experiment with different sex positions. In particular, we have found that when she keeps her legs together in the missionary position that although the depth of penetration is reduced, the sensations for me are much better.
Another good position to try is to have her lie on top of you and for you both to keep your legs together. In this position we find that my penis gets ample friction. Some men recommend rear entry with her legs together, but I find that my short penile length does not allow me to make good thrusts without falling out.
All in all, having a less than average penis can be a problem but if you learn to adapt and find ways to enjoy sex without letting it bother you, you can have pretty much as good a sex life as anyone else.
My penis is average length - about six inches - but
thin as heck, and I hate it! The odd thing is my girlfriend is fine with it, and
loves to touch it, worship it even, and especially to take it in her mouth and
suck it. She tells me that if it was any bigger she wouldn't be able to get in in
her mouth. I still haven't figured out whether she's just being kind or she really
means it, but, though I feel some embarrassment at her seeing me flaccid, I'm
not complaining about the fellatio! However, vaginal sex does leave a lot to be
desired, since she gets so wet and I am so small. We haven't yet solved the
problem, but I intend to try one of those penile sheaths that gives you extra
penis length and girth. She certainly seems to need more than I can give her.
I don't want to fuck my partner from behind - it's too impersonal.
We start in the missionary position and then roll over. This is very exciting,
since if she has her legs high enough up, even my small penis can penetrate her
fully. The friction depends on how much she clenches, so I find I can keep going
for a long time, and she likes it because it feels emotionally close and intimate.
One girlfriend dumped me supposedly because of the size of my penis, though funnily enough I haven't had any complaints from anyone else! I suppose this means that a few women really do want a large penis. I guess we just have to accept that this is their problem and just like the man who would only want to be with a woman with large breasts, they can't see the whole person behind the penis, large or small.
Even if you have a partner who would like you to have a bigger penis so you can both feel a bit more during sex, surely it's much more important to have a good relationship based on trust, love, respect and mutual understanding? I mean, really, how important is the size of your cock in the long run? And you can see what women think about penis size in some detail here.
I'm not sure I agree with the man above, because as a young man I think it's natural to want to fuck around a lot, and you can end up feeling very inadequate if you know that most men are bigger than you are in the penis department. I wouldn't even want to be with a woman who wrote it off to experience if she was disappointed - while I know not every sexual encounter can be a mind-blowing experience, I certainly think you have more chance of making a casual affair into a successful liaison if you are not worrying about the size of your equipment. Having said that, I think I have had more sex than average (I'm 25 and have had 16 partners) and I haven't ever been humiliated by the woman about my size, though as you may have guessed from what I wrote above, I still tend to think a woman will see me as too small.
What surprises me is that no-one talks about love being more important than penis size. At 25, you may want to fuck around, as you put it, and maybe this is a natural process, but doesn't it leave you feeling empty and lacking something? That might even be true for a guy with a normal sized penis, you know! It sounds to me like you are trying to prove how masculine you are, and each time you get a new partner you simply reinforce the fact that you don't feel very masculine.
Maybe you'd be better off finding a long term partner who truly appreciate you? In any event, your horny 25-year-old-ness will not last for ever, and once it has gone, you will want a longer term connection. I have to admit though, that this may be when penis size becomes more important. If a couple rely on sexual pleasure to hold a relationship together, then they certainly need to find ways that they can be happy, especially if he has a small penis and she has a large vagina otherwise I can see them splitting up.
For slightly more scientific information on the vagina and the female orgasm see: