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Welcome to The-penis.com, the best and most successful website you'll find about men and male issues in general and the penis in particular.

We've been online for about 20 years, and we've achieved the remarkable total of over 30 million visits to the site. This is because we have more information, more facts, more of everything than any other website about the penis.

No matter what you wish to know about the penis, masculinity, men or male issues, including sexual intercourse and masturbation, or any other subject related to being a man, we can help you.

The menu below will show you what we cover; if you'd like a personal answer, or you have any suggestions, please email us at: moreinfo"at"the-penis.com (replace "at" with @) Please note all material is copyright, The-penis.com, 2023.

What can you find information about on this website?

All About Penis Size

Small or large, thick or thin, everything you need to know can be found here.

All About Penis Problems

Whatever your difficulty, the answer is here!

Erection Problems

Premature Ejaculation

Delayed Ejaculation

Whether you can't get hard, come too fast, or can't come at all, check out our sexual problems page and you'll be enjoying intercourse, orgasm and ejaculation very soon.

All About The Power Of Sex In Men's Lives

We all know how important sex is in men's lives. Now find out more about the sexual response in men and how it can give us massive pleasure (and sometimes pain).

A Pictorial Guide To The Penis

With photos of every possible shape, size and condition of "Manhood" here, be reassured and enlightened - maybe even surprised!

All About The Penis, Foreskin and Circumcision

Find out what makes up the average penis.

The Penis In Human Culture

Musings and meanderings. What role does the penis play in our cultural understanding of sex?

Read What We Have To Say About Sex Techniques

Or Visit This Site, With 100s Of Techniques and Positions For Great Sex!


An increasingly common condition - a "penile difference" which all dads and men with a "different" penis need to know about.

How To Overcome Delayed Ejaculation

For Men In The UK - How To Overcome Delayed Ejaculation At Home In Private

Penis size

We have lots of information about penis size! Whether you want to find out what is small, average and large, or discover where you fit on the size scale, we can tell you. If you want to know how penis size varies between races, look no further!

We conducted our own penis size survey and we now have the definitive size information for you. It makes interesting reading - for one thing, average penis size is smaller than most people think.

Penile anatomy

This is a section of the site which describes the appearance and structure of the normal penis. There's a great deal of information here on penile anatomy and the foreskin, together with information on circumcision.

If you want to know more about the pros and cons of circumcision, this is the place to visit. In addition, we have all the information you could ever want about penile anatomy, shape and circumcision.

Male sexuality, arousal and orgasm

Male Sexuality Including Arousal Orgasm And Ejaculation

Here we tell you everything you'll ever need to know about how the essence of being a man!

From the first growing sense of arousal to the powerful and thrilling moments of ejaculation and orgasm, all the stages of a man's sexual arousal are described in detail.

Read this section, and you'll be able to explain to your girl once and for all why you get an erection so readily, and why you seem to be so eager to enjoy sex at any time. If you want a more psychological explanation of your masculine energies, you can discover all about male archetypal energies here - and also all about shadow work here. What we term the shadow, the unexpressed parts your personality, controls much of your behavior in the world, as well as your thoughts and feelings.

True intimacy

Is all about connection, romance, love and affection. I'd call it compassionate kindness, but you might have your own way of describing it. It's all about connecting with a woman and devoting your mind, body and heart to pleasuring her in bed (and out of bed, for that matter!) If you're a woman reading this, and you simply want more information on how to please a man in bed, click here.

Lovemaking techniques and positions

Sex Techniques And Sexual Positions Advice

If you do have a partner, you're likely to be looking for information about how to make your love life more enjoyable. And we have several pages of tips to make you a great lover. If you want to know more about the coital alignment technique, try this excellent website on the coital alignment technique, a variation of the missionary position.

There's also information on the delights of fellatio and cunnilingus, the possible pleasures of anal intercourse (and which positions are best for it), the missionary position, rear entry, side by side and other positions - and much more besides.

And if you'd like to know how to keep a man committed, monogamous and ensure that he will fall in love with you, check out this information.

Overcome Delayed Ejaculation!

Delayed ejaculation, also known as male orgasmic disorder or retarded ejaculation, is a condition where a man is unable to reach climax during lovemaking or ejaculate easily during intercourse.

Sometimes a man can thrust for ages during intercourse without becoming fully sexually aroused and reaching the point of ejaculation easily.

The great news is that I have written a self-help treatment program to overcome problems with delayed ejaculation. This will enable you to ejaculate normally during sex - which means when you choose to do so - within a few weeks of starting the program of treatment.

Erection problems and sexual problems

They say the course of true love never runs smoothly, and sadly that's all too true with erection problems, premature ejaculation and retarded or delayed ejaculation. Young men may find they just can't contain themselves and ejaculate far too quickly, while other men may find they are unable to ejaculate at all!

And there can be few things more distressing than finding your previously stiff penis has suddenly wilted when you try and put the condom on - or, worse still, when you begin to make love. What's your penis trying to tell you with all these mischievous acts of sabotage?

Fortunately, there are answers, and we have them.

Relationship Advice

We have a great site to recommend for you - with many dating tips for men. There is also some great advice for men who want to know more about having a successful and pleasing sexual relationship with a woman. You may also wish to explore the concept of shadow work to see how that form of therapy can help your relationship.

Male andropause and the mid-life crisis - Declining libido and depression

As we get older we begin to lose our libido and our capacity for instant erections. This is the andropause, caused by a decline in effective testosterone levels in the body.

What's more, if a man hasn't achieved everything he hoped for by mid-life he may have the proverbial mid-life crisis.

A combination of declining potency and an inability to keep up with the young studs can be a depressing mixture which leads to feelings of worthlessness and despair.

Even if it isn't that bad, this time of reflection can still be unhappy - especially if a man finds his erections and libido diminish significantly. It's also quite common to find the size of your penis and testicles diminishes as you get older.

Fortunately, it's all curable. We tell you exactly what you can do about the andropause and mid-life crisis. That doesn't necessarily mean buying a Harley Davidson and running off with a woman young enough to be your daughter.

The Social Psychology of The Penis

We have a new site which is aimed at explaining some of the social aspects of male sexuality. You can find it here.

Hypospadias and Peyronie's disease

One boy in every hundred or so is born with a penis different from the "normal". This can be extremely challenging for him throughout his life.

Hypospadias involves an incomplete development of the penis, so that the urethral opening is not at the tip of the glans. There are other issues associated with it as well: twisting, incomplete foreskin, bending over at the tip, small size and so on.

Peyronie's disease is caused by injury to the penile chambers resulting in a bend or constriction in the flaccid or erect organ. We explain how this happens and direct you to websites which discuss the pros and cons of treatment: for example, surgery can be effective but may reduce your size slightly.

The testicles and scrotum

Your testicles spend their lives tucked between your legs, perhaps not getting the same attention you lavish on your cock, but they're as fundamental to your masculinity as your penis. Making sperm and testosterone, they are the essence of male fertility and potency.

Happily they rarely go wrong, but this page has the information which will guide you through any testicular crises and tell you all you need to know about the testicles. This includes, among other things, issues of size, appearance, testicular health and ejaculation.

We think we have the best men's website on the internet

And we aim to keep it that way. We welcome your suggestions and comments and we invite you to write for us on any aspect of being a man or male sexuality. We have many stories of personal experiences of being gay, living with hypospadias, and foreskin restoration, for example.

So, if you have something to say, let us know! We're probably already the biggest site on the internet dealing with these vital male issues: but we aim to become even bigger and better as time goes by.

No matter what size your penis happens to be, it's a truly wonderful organ with the capacity to bestow immense pleasure on you and your partner.

Whether that pleasure comes from masturbation, making love or just through the sheer thrill of your masculinity and virility, we men so rarely have the chance to discuss our issues openly and without embarrassment. As a result we often have no idea what is "normal", common, natural, or even possible, for that most glorious of creations - the male body in general and the penis in particular. This website puts that right.

And remember it is a wonderful experience to be a man and experience the joys of maleness and masculinity!

By the way, another great resource for all things relating to making the most of your manhood is Tug Bro. This website covers everything from male masturbation guides to sex toy reviews.

Penis size erect and flaccid

Many people want to know what "normal penile size" means. In a 1996 study, researchers looked at the penises of normal men, by taking a random sample from the general population, to establish what exactly constitutes "normal" penis size.

The researchers induced erection in these men by the use of drugs. The results were as follows: average flaccid length was 8.8 cm (3.5 inches) and average erect length 12.9 cm (5.1 inches). Neither a man's age nor the size of his flaccid penis was an accurate indicator of erect length. In fact, the stretched length of the flaccid penis most closely correlated with erect length.

Our own results show slightly larger sizes that this - you can see the results of our survey here.

Even today, the question of size - more exactly, the issue of how to make it bigger! - is of interest to many men. There are various systems available which claim to give you more length. For example, a colleague of mine who works in the field has a website devoted to the subject of penis extenders so you can make up your own mind on this contentious subject.

To return for a moment to the study mentioned above. The researchers measured both the flaccid and erect penis of each man to the nearest 0.5 cm. They also measured penile circumference, depth of the prepubic fat pad and stretched penile length. These measurements were taken in warm conditions to minimize the effect of temperature shrinkage!

The length of the penis was taken from the skin junction between the penis and the pubic area (with the tape pushed into the pubic bone) right along to the urethral meatus. The penile circumference was measured midway along the shaft; the fat pad depth by pushing the tape into the pubic bone.

All the men in this investigation had an intracavernous injection of Prostaglandin designed for evaluation of their erectile dysfunction; the measurement of their penises was taken during these investigations.

Penile length and circumference were measured when each man's erection was at its maximum. If full erection was not achieved, a mixture of phentolamine, papaverine and Prostaglandin was then added as an injection and the measurements were repeated.

As we already stated, average flaccid length was around 8.9 cm and mean erect length was 12.9 cm (rounded to 0.1 cm). The average erectile increase was therefore 4.0 cm.

Of course, how much penile length you have available to engage in lovemaking depends on how much fat you have over your pubic bone. The shaft of the penis hidden within this fat is effectively not available for intercourse! In this study, total penile length was the sum of erect length and fat pad depth.

The increase in length of the penis on erection had no obvious or clear relationship to flaccid penile length. Moreover, age had no bearing on either flaccid or erect penile length. Only fat pad depth differed significantly with age - being greater in the older subjects.

All in all, the results of this study serve to offer an indication of average length and circumference of the soft and erect penis.

The issue of size is important because a man's perception of his penis as undersized when either flaccid or erect can lessen his self-confidence and self-esteem. In my experience, anxiety about size has little relationship to the true size and length of a man's penis, and more about low self-confidence and lack of masculinity.

Some other points:

Many men have the uncomfortable problem of a retractile penis (dealt with elsewhere on this website), and obesity is a major part of this problem.

For many men, knowing the effect of fat on the appearance of the penis may alleviate anxiety about penis size. For men thinking of penile augmentation, losing weight or employing suprapubic liposuction may be a simpler and safer alternative to penile enhancement surgery.

All in all, average flaccid length was 8.8 cm, stretched length 12.4 cm, and erect length 12.8 cm. The link between flaccid and erect length is not consistent - as we all know from our own experience. Or, if you don't, check out our page on The Facts About Penis Size!

Main Pages On This Site

What size is your penis?
Penile anatomy & circumcision
Male sexuality/arousal/orgasm
A pictorial guide to the penis
Male sexual problems
Penis problem page
Hypospadias: "different" penis
Other Penile Thoughts

NEW! The real truth about penis size!

Updated: August 07, 2023